There are healing and destructive relationships. A characteristic of healing relationships is that partners respect each other as they are, without trying to change each other. They take great pleasure in each other's company, but do not feel restless, desperate or alone when the other is not around. In this type of relationship, each one offers understanding, support and encouragement to his loved one, without trying to solve his problems. There is freedom and peace in that relationship.
Of course, there may be disagreements from time to time, but the emotions they elicit are short-lived. Both partners are prepared to forgive. There is a connection between their hearts, and as a result, they don't take each other's emotions and mistakes personally. As this does not reach a deeper layer of pain, they do not give it much importance. Emotionally, both partners are independent. They do not derive their strength and well-being from their partner's approval or presence. One does not fill a void in the other's life, but it does add something new and vital.
In a healing relationship, partners can even get to know one or more past lives. But in these cases, there is rarely a karmic emotional charge like the one described above. These two souls may have met in a past life in an essentially encouraging and supportive way. As friends, partners or as a father and son, they recognized each other as soul mates. This creates an indissoluble bond between them through several lives.
I will give another example. A young man grows up in a poor family somewhere in the Middle Ages. He is kind and sensitive by nature and does not adapt very well to his environment. His family is made up of hard-working people, somewhat rude people, who give little importance to his dreamy and impractical nature. When he is grown up, he enters a monastery.
He is also not happy there, because life is tightly regulated and there is no human warmth or companionship among the people who live there. However, there is a man there who is a little different. He is a priest, who has a high position, but who has no air of authority and who is really interested in him. Once in a while, he asks you how things are going and gives you some nice chores like gardening.
Each time they look at each other, there is a sense of recognition, some kind of affinity between them. There is a silent connection that comes from the heart. Although they do not always meet or talk much, the priest is a source of hope and encouragement for the young man.
In a later incarnation, this man is a woman. Again, she has a kind and dreamy nature. She has a hard time staying alone. When she becomes an adult, she finds herself mired in a marriage to a very authoritarian and domineering man. At first, she was attracted to his remarkable and powerful charisma, but later she realizes how much his dominance restricts and oppresses her. However, she finds it very difficult to break free of him.
In her work, she sometimes mentions this issue to a colleague, a man a little older than herself. He encourages you to stand on your own and remain true to your own needs. Each time she talks to him, she intuitively knows that he is right. Then, after much inner conflict, she ends up divorcing her husband. Then, contact with that colleague changes. She feels affection for him. She finds out that he is single. She feels so at ease with him that it looks like they've known each other for centuries. They start a relationship, which is affectionate, relaxed and encouraging for both. The sympathy that flowed between them in a past life now takes the form of a satisfying relationship as a husband and wife.
This is a healing relationship. The woman made an essential decision by abandoning her husband and choosing for herself. With that, she affirmed her emotional independence. This created the basis for a balanced and loving relationship with a related soul.
Pamela Kribbe.
Fonte: Direitos Autorais: © Pamela Kribbe
http://www.jeshua.net/mornings/mornings19.htm
Translation by Vera Corrêa veracorrea46@ig.com.br
